Happiness is not a goal, it is a by-product. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt wisely stated that “Happiness is not a goal, it is a by-product.” The same could be said for marriage and your relationships. Simply put, it is not your marriage or your spouse that makes you happy. Instead, it is what you invest in your marriage and your spouse which brings you true joy and happiness.
When you are serving and honoring your spouse out of selfless love, only then will you be truly happy. Marriage may not actually be “work”, but it does take intentional effort to be successful. Be intentional about your actions and do something unexpected for your spouse today and every day! You “be” the happiness that you want to see in your relationship and marriage. You will be surprised by the dividends it returns into all areas of your life!
Successful American business magnate and investor Warren Buffet stated “It’s better to hang out with people better than you. Pick out associates whose behavior is better than yours and you’ll drift in that direction.” His prudent business advice can be useful in marriage as well. Look at the couples you currently are associated with. Do they model the marriage you want? Are they happy? If not, you may need to find yourself different marriage role models.
Invest your time into relationships that build up marriage; the by-product of this investment is a happy marriage. However, don’t rely solely on happiness to see your marriage through. Make prudent investments which will pay the biggest returns in your marriage. Be careful where you invest your time and resources.
Remember, happiness is only a by-product of your marriage. Invest wisely.